In England, Wales and Northern Ireland, many 15-18 year olds will be on edge. The last 11+ years have all led to the moment when they open the email or go to school or log onto a portal. In that moment when they look at their results, they will know if they have been a success or a failure in education……..

Except, in the real work, that’s not how it works and that’s not how it ends. Headlines in the press and on social media about A-level and then GCSE results being up or down, about a north/south/east/west divide and how girls or boys have been better or worse this year are there to make us believe that this is it. Whatever those results, they will follow us and haunt us for the rest of our lives – but they won’t.

Education is becoming more and more monetised. A Government document released earlier in July this year is titled ‘Key Stage 2 attainment and lifetime earnings’ (link here) and in it, the levels in KS2 SATs are linked to what that 11 year old may earn in their lifetime. What a load of rubbish, and how awful to have a report that looks at SATs results and how much tax these CHILDREN may pay in their lifetimes. Nothing about happiness, health, mental well being or anything important, just their potential lifetime earnings. There will be similar research out there for GCSE/level 2 results and A-level/level 3 results, and these obviously will include Scottish Nationals and Highers.

Young people’s exam results matter – I am not saying they don’t. What happens over the next year or two will be directly influenced by their results. University, apprenticeships, work, college places may all depend on the numbers of A, B Cs and 9-4s, but life does go on if the required grades don’t appear on the results slip.

What we need to do as we approach results days (and apologies to any readers in Scotland, this is a week too late, I will do better next year) is be there for our young people. I’ll write a more detailed post about what to do if the grades for uni haven’t been met and publish this on Wednesday, but as a general rule, be there for them. Let them feel whatever feelings they are experiencing. Do not berate them or tell them off – what’s done is done. You can’t rewind time, you can’t change the outcome, you can’t shout at the teachers. What you can do, is offer them unconditional love and support, and then, when they’re ready, help them to decide what comes next, be that resits, a different uni course, alternative employment or a year out.

Sometimes getting unexpected results is a good thing. Results that are better than expected can open more doors, and results that are less than expected can open new doors, and both of these can lead to more opportunities. I have personal experience of this (my A-level grades were not what was expected) and also as a parent, and I know it can be tough.

Whatever the results, and whatever way your young people have experienced education (Academy, LEA state school, private school, special school, AP, college, home school, unschool, online school or something else), they’ve done it. At 16 they are through primary and secondary, and they have the freedom to choose school, college, employment or apprenticeships, and at 18 they are done with formal education. Whatever their results day brings, they’ve done it their way, and you should be incredibly proud.