I really enjoy blogging – I find it cathartic and a positive way to connect with people. When I blog regularly (or semi-regularly) it helps me manage my mental health, and from the comments and messages I get, it helps some of you as well. But sometimes life gets in the way, and then the habit of blogging slips. When I get out of the habit, it feels like it’s been ages since I wrote anything, so I put it off for another week, and another week, and then life gets in the way again, and then here we are, almost a year since I last wrote anything.

My hope is that I will spend Sunday mornings when it’s just me and the dogs awake to write – I’m not promising a blog post every week as I have other writing projects I’d like to get started, but most weeks (fingers crossed).

So, what’s been going on since last May? Well, I officially have ADHD – I had my appointment on the 1st March, and it was quite an emotional hour but at the end I was told that I definitely have ADHD. The relief was huge, and the mental and emotional rollercoaster since then has been a little turbulent, but worth it. I’ll write more about this and the impact it’s had on my well being in my next blog post.

My research has finally got ethics approval, so this starts in about 3 weeks, which is incredibly exciting. To think that 3 years ago I didn’t know about the EdD program at the University of Sheffield, and now I’m coming to the end of the third academic year, about to start interviewing and talking to participants, and within 18 months I could (although it may take longer) have a finished thesis. Exciting but very busy times lie ahead.

Thing 1 and Thing 2 have both had other diagnoses in the last year – both are ASD and ADHD although they both present very differently, which is no surprise. I think it’s been a relief to both of them to know that what they suspected was right, and that the missing pieces in their understanding of themselves are now there, more or less. Diagnoses are there to help us understand ourselves better, as well as for others to understand. If we struggle to know who we are and how we function, it becomes hard to advocate for ourselves – another future post will look into this in more detail.

I want to build Skware Peg as a community for anyone who feels that they don’t quite belong withing societal expectations. Diagnoses are not needed, and I want this to be an accepting, safe place for everyone – especially with what’s happening in the US, and to a lesser extent in the UK.

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